“Victory” is a word that makes me rather uncomfortable. It brings to mind a dualism that causes suffering. In other words, if there’s a victor, there must be a loser. I feel sad when someone is put in that role. I do not like competition. I do not like war. I do not like capitalism. And I do not like losing or feeling “less than”. So often, winners are unkind, insensitive and arrogant. I was the fourth daughter in my family of origin, and I probably felt like “the loser” in lots of ways as a child: redundant, younger, dumber, less skilled. It doesn’t feel good to be on that side of the scale. I prefer to imagine a way that everyone can win, that we can all share and get what we need regardless of how much or how little we are able to contribute. I used to tell my own 4 children, “Fair doesn’t mean everyone gets the same thing. Fair means everyone gets what they need.” May all beings be happy. May we all feel that we can get what we need. I am hoping for a kinder Victory for my country, for my children, for myself.
Well said! Thanks! K
Just being honest. Thanks for visiting!
I really like your definition of fair. There are no winners or losers when everyone gets what they need.
Thanks, Victoria. It was one of those things that just came out of my mouth one day in the throes of parenting, and it seemed like it had the ring of a Truth that wasn’t my own.
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I have to agree that Victory means we have struggled to gain what we needed to learn. Thanks for stopping over to my blog.
I have an article coming out in a blog magazine called the Be Zine. The theme this month is At-Risk Youth. It will be published on the 15th of the month. Check it out at https://intothebardo.wordpress.com/2015/11/07/religious-community-social-justice-incarcerated-youth-an-interview-with-terri-stewart/
I too wasn’t so thrilled with this week’s theme but I’ve enjoyed the submissions where people have felt a victory overcoming some personal challenge. Thanks for posting your thoughts.
It’s great when there is only a winner and no loser, when what is defeated is a limitation, not a living being.
Beautifully put, scillagrace. Thankyou
Your welcome. Just speaking my mind.
This was an eloquent response to the theme–and I love the photos supporting your piece. Your definition of fairness is so good. Thom got everyone in the family Bernie tee shirts. We believe that victory for Bernie will lead to many more people getting what they need.
That is what I’m hoping, too. I have a sticker on my laptop cover, too. 🙂
Very inspiring to read and let’s hope the new president of the USA will have wisdom and compassion. I’m often impressed with Obama but find it interesting that the so called most powerful man in the world has had to be restrained by democracy. God bless you all over there and in France now.
I’m hoping those restraints will be less polarized in the future and become simple checks and balances. Thanks for your comment!
I hope so too because he was elected on some of the issues that were rejected,maws he not. The House of Lords here created a problem for the government but it was ironically about being fair to the less well off in our society!
Yes; it seems that our traditional thinking of what is the majority and what is the minority must undergo changes. That’s progressive!
Honesty makes you brave and a Winner! That is Victory. 🙂
Honesty is victory, to be sure. Lying is oppression.
You think a lot like me. I hate wars, and I believe that there are no “winners” in a war. Both sides have been injured, and will never be the same. I really enjoyed this post. P.S. I’m glad someone as intelligent as Bernie Sanders is rising! Feel the bern! 😉
Nice to meet a kindred spirit! Thanks for your visit, Maritza.